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THE FOREVER YOUNGS



A Guide to Eternal Health,
Happiness, and Freedom









KYLE JAY BECKWERMERT

Copyright © 2017 KYLE JAY BECKWERMERT

All rights reserved.


DEDICATION



To Mom and Dad:


for teaching me how to love rather than to hate,

and to lead rather than to follow.


CONTENTS


DEDICATION iii

CONTENTS iv

INTRODUCTION 1

THE THREE KINDS OF PEOPLE 2

LEAVE THE TRIBE BEHIND 9

BE PLAYFUL 17

LET GO OF YOUR BODY 23

QUIT WORRYING 37

TRUST THE TIMING OF YOUR LIFE 44

RULE YOUR THOUGHTS, RULE YOUR WORLD 52

HAPPY FOOD, HAPPY YOU 60

PUSH THROUGH FAILURE 69

FINAL THOUGHTS 73

THE AFFIRMATIONS 75










INTRODUCTION


The purpose of this book is to help you reconnect with your essence. Your essence is timeless, boundless, and infinite. It has no form, it knows no limits. It is the core of who you are as a human being. When you connect with this essence, marvellous events transpire. You will feel peace and joy, no matter what turbulence surrounds you, and your body will transform in ways that will literally allow you to defy time. Those who have found this connection are known as “the Forever Youngs.” And these people think and see the world differently than most. The intent of this book is to help you think, feel, and act as they do. They have discovered their greatness, and so too will you once you correct the way you think.

What separates a human being from this essence is simply this thought: “I am not good enough.” All our suffering originates from this belief. It is the source of all disease and unhappiness in this world. When we learn to love ourselves, when we believe we are good enough, we connect with our essence, and all our troubles cease to exist.

It is my hope that you rediscover that eternal part of you, for when you do, you will inherent a vitality that can never be shaken—a vitality that has the capacity to heal your life, manifest your desires, and above all else, allow you to remain Forever Young in body, mind, and spirit.


1

THE THREE KINDS OF PEOPLE


One individual who lives and vibrates to the energy of pure love and reverence for all of life will counter-balance the negativity of 750,000 individuals who calibrate at the lower weakening levels.”

-David Hawkins

Those who vibrate with the energy of love and reverence in this world are known as “the Forever Youngs.” The Forever Youngs have connected with their essence and they have discovered their happiness, their excitement, and their purpose. Whenever you experience the feeling of happiness, you are tuning into your natural state of being. Finding this can be difficult; every day we’re faced with conflict and struggles. But to master anything, we need to put in the time. It takes a sustained effort to see results. Happiness is your birthright, your obligation, and your purpose in this life and if we wish to become more fully functioning human beings, we must learn how to tune into this higher vibration. We raise this energy by changing the way we think and see the world. With that, there is a spectrum of energetic beings who vibrate at different levels of consciousness.

There are three kinds of people in this world: those who give energy, those who take energy, and those who do neither. The people who give energy are filled with positive thoughts. The people who take energy are filled with negative thoughts. And the people who neither take nor give energy are filled with complacent thoughts. Every person on the planet falls into one of these categories. We either empower others, disempower others, or have no effect on others. This book is meant to help you become the kind of person who gives energy. These are the people who walk this earth with happiness in their hearts and who have the profound ability to attract what they desire. They are the leaders, the creators, the peacekeepers, and the innovators of the world. They are the Forever Youngs.

The Forever Youngs vibrate with energy that can uplift and inspire the world around them. When you are around these special beings, you cannot help but feel calm and peaceful, for you pick up on their energy. It stems from the way they think and how they see the world. “We convince by our presence,” said Walt Whitman. And when we vibrate at higher levels of consciousness through thoughts of bliss, we unconsciously influence other people’s vibration as well. It is therefore wise to fill our minds with high-calibre thoughts (love, hope, and purpose) and surround ourselves with people who think likewise. Let’s begin our journey of reconnecting with our essence by taking a closer look at the three types of people.

The Takers

At the bottom of the energetic totem pole are the people who take or absorb energy from the world. They are known as “the Takers,” and it’s incredibly easy to think and act as they do. The Takers complain, whine, sniffle, blame, and find fault. You can hear these individuals at the mall, in restaurants, at the gym, etc. They bicker about the weather or the traffic, and they often feel as if they’re in the wrong place at the wrong time. We all know someone like this, don’t we? We’ve all heard Takers say things such as, “Why is it raining today?” or “Well, Susy and her family have that, so why don’t we?” The Takers feel victimized by life. They think every person is better off than they are, so they will always find a reason to grumble, despite how great things might be going in their lives. It doesn’t matter if the service was flawless, the food was delicious, or the movie was riveting—they tend to spin positive into negative. The Takers create more problems than solutions. These individuals are so disconnected from their essence, you’ll rarely see smiles on their faces, at least not authentic ones. They see the glass as half empty instead of half full.

The Takers generally feel inadequate and insecure based on that one simple thought: “I’m not good enough.” It defines them. Consequently, they feel the need to seek approval and recognition from “the tribe,” i.e., society, the crowd, others, the masses. The Takers’ feelings are controlled by what the tribe thinks of them, not by what they think of themselves. Often, in order to feel worthy and valuable, they become obsessed with accumulating as much material wealth as possible, even at the expense of their own health. Their self-worth is based on what they have and what people think of them. Is it any wonder they’re so pessimistic and frustrated all the time? There will always be someone with more things, and there will always be someone who doesn’t like them—thus, there will always be a problem. The Takers see the world through a lens tainted with negativity.

Take great caution around these people. Their negativity and pessimistic view of the world can lower your own energy. You’ll know when you’re around them. A sense of anxiety, fear, or sluggishness will rise up within you. Not a word needs to be uttered by the Takers, as we can pick up on their energies when we’re near them. You will experience their thoughts and perceptions of the world in every fibre of your being. Your body is a fine-tuned barometer of the energies around you. Listen to it. Trust your gut! As much as possible, steer clear of the energy suckers in your life, as they can cause much harm. Do your very best to surround yourself with high-calibre thoughts and people, for they will empower and bring out the best in you.

And before you say “Ugh, I know so many people like this—they make me so mad!” remember that these individuals are the ones experiencing the most hurt. They are the ones who feel abandoned, who feel they aren’t good enough, and who feel a lack of love for themselves. Perhaps the next time you come across this kind of person, instead of getting frustrated and upset with them, give them silent words of encouragement: “May you find joy in your life, may you find peace in your life, and may you rediscover your self-importance.”

The Floaters

Next on the energetic totem pole are those who simply accept the world as it is. They live their lives according to the tribe, and all the rules and regulations it imposes: be a good citizen, file your taxes, get a mortgage, go to college, get a job, save money, have kids, and, ultimately, retire. While this is all great and dandy, the Floaters lack two major things: excitement and purpose. They’re mostly on autopilot, simply going through the motions of life to merely survive. They accept the cards that the world has dealt them. As time progresses, the Floaters become bored and complacent only to realize that life has passed them by and they have yet to find their happiness or purpose. The Floaters stay within their comfort zones and don’t take the time to consult themselves and reflect on their desires. They might spend their whole lives in one job position, or vacationing at one spot, or ordering the same kind of food over and over again. They don’t pursue greater opportunities for themselves because that involves risk, and they are risk averse. Playing it safe and staying within society’s “guidelines” are common patterns among this group.

The root cause of the Floaters’ behaviour can be easily overlooked. They may come across as well-functioning people, and to some degree they are, but they’re doing things for the wrong reasons. They are fuelled by fear and by other people’s opinions. They may be successful at their jobs, but these jobs don’t excite or fulfill them. They build their lives around what the tribe has in mind for them and thus will never be fulfilled—their goals and dreams were never their own.

Like the Takers, the Floaters can be spotted in everyday conversations. They tend to need reassurance through praise and recognition, and can often be heard proclaiming how great they are. They boast about how well they have done for themselves in regards to their career, their parenting, etc. The Floaters can be self-centred, egotistical, and self-righteous, but at the end of the day, they feel a deep sense of emptiness within. This emptiness stems from living a life that is dull, safe, and comfortable. They see their life as good but not great, as fun but not electrifying, as ordinary but not extraordinary.

The Forever Youngs

And then there are the fully functioning individuals who reside at the highest level of consciousness on the energetic totem pole. Things that bother and irritate the average human being have little bearing on them. These individuals are often in a state of gratitude, and “worry” doesn’t seem to be a part of their vocabulary. We’ve all been around these types of people, too. They are the people you meet and immediately connect with. For one reason or another, you feel the urge to talk to them on a deeper level, and it feels good to simply be in their presence. There is a gravitational pull that you can’t explain, a magnetism. These people are filled with thoughts of love, hope, and harmony, and they exude serenity. There is little judgment, anxiety, or hatred in their hearts; in their world there is peace and purpose. These are the givers, the entrepreneurs, the visionaries, the go-getters, the leaders, and the creators, and their connection to essence is strong. They are focused, growth orientated, and optimistic. Thus, they tend to be the most happy people.

You’ll notice that these people disappear when negative dialogue occurs around them. It’s almost as if they vanish by magic when drama unfolds—they have no time for self-defeating conversations, negative news, or people who promote anything other than peace and love. What governs the Forever Youngs’ world is what they feel within, not what the tribe has in mind for them. It could be pouring rain, they could be stuck in traffic, or their plane could be delayed, yet they remain calm, unbothered, and content, for in their world everything is perfect. The Forever Youngs don’t dwell on what’s missing in their lives; rather, they put all their effort and awareness into what they do have. They do this because they understand that what you put your awareness on expands, and if we choose to focus on what’s missing in our lives, we will continue to attract what’s missing in our lives. So instead, they focus on gratitude, for the more we are thankful for, the more positive things will come our way.

Unlike the Floaters and the Takers, who lack direction and purpose, the Forever Youngs have a sense of their own destiny, an awareness of their mission in life. They understand that their time here on this earth is limited and that there are only so many days, so many heartbeats, to accomplish what it is they came here for. They see this limited time as a miracle and a blessing. They have a deep appreciation for the gift of life. For them, to experience all the senses and the riches of the world is a privilege. Breathing fresh air, possessing good health, walking down the sidewalk and feeling the sun shining on their face, laughing, dancing, playing, and singing, forming relationships and making lasting memories—all of these things are precious to them. As Walt Whitman so eloquently said, “Every cubic inch of space is a miracle.” Most individuals don’t think twice about life’s seemingly ordinary experiences, and disregard them as routine events. However, the Forever Youngs experience excitement in these seemingly ordinary moments, which is what makes their perspective on the world so different from most. As you work on connecting with your essence and raising your consciousness, you’ll find yourself naturally starting to see the world as extraordinary rather than ordinary.

Above all else, the Forever Youngs spend their lives in passion and on purpose—they have found their excitement. Everything else is just smoke, mirrors, and distractions. All the awards, all the certificates, all the degrees, and all the toys and riches in the world come secondary to a life of purpose. Furthermore, they have no interest in a life of neutrality. They want to make an impact and leave a legacy. The Forever Youngs are the people willing to take the risks, consult within, and go through the growing pains to find their greatness. They are not people pleasers or approval seekers, and thus they have no concern for what the tribe says or does. They are independent, open to change, and have a sense of self-worth based on who they are and not what they have. This is what we must strive for. In the following chapters, you`ll begin to understand how these individuals conduct themselves in the world. And as a result, you will start seeing subtle changes in your life as well. Worries and stresses that once took up so much of your attention will fade away and you’ll discover yourself to be a far more powerful, courageous and purposeful human being.

Affirmation

I choose to surround myself with people who bring out the best in me, not people who bring out the stress in me. I will work on correcting my thoughts so that I may experience a higher level of awareness in my life. This higher level of awareness will allow me to create and lead the life I have envisioned for myself.


I am Forever Young



2

LEAVE THE TRIBE BEHIND


Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”

-Theodor Seuss Geisel (Dr. Seuss)

Choosing to not care about what anyone else thinks of you is one of the most profound decisions you can make. There will always be someone who doesn’t agree with you. No matter how hard you try, no matter how well you behave, no matter how smart you are or how funny and witty you are, there will always be someone who criticizes. Attempting to please everyone is a waste of time, energy, and effort. Instead, the Forever Youngs are more concerned with how they see themselves, rather than how the world perceives them. Those who have made any impact in any profession have done so by not conforming to the tribe. By following our own calling, and disregarding what society thinks we should and shouldn’t do, we will experience more personal freedom and peace in our lives.

You can’t please everyone

If you’re searching tirelessly for external validation, consider this: There are 8 billion people on this planet. Hypothetically speaking, 8 billion individuals will have their own perceptions of you and your behaviour. Can you imagine trying to make all of these people see the world the way you do? It would be a never-ending pursuit that would never fill your cup. Only you can do that. Unfortunately, so many people live their lives based on what others tell them. We as humans tend to act in accordance with what others (the tribe) say is right. We tend to follow the crowd instead of forging ahead on our own paths and building our own dreams. Most of the world is comfortable following, for leading requires strength, courage, and an ability to feel comfortable with uncertainty.

My question to you is this: why on earth would you concern yourself with someone else’s reality, with someone else’s ideas on how you should live your life? Others’ beliefs and opinions have nothing to do with your karmic mission. Your karmic mission is simply your soul’s purpose in this life. And each one of us has a different and unique assignment. Whether you’re an actor, a firefighter, a business executive, or a salesman, when your soul’s purpose is being fulfilled, you will feel peace, happiness, and joy.

I’m not saying you should drown out everyone who offers you advice or guidance; I’m saying listen to those who advocate your purpose and your passion and ignore everything else. True freedom and purpose never come from external validation. You must listen to your inner voice and ignore the crowd.

This life that you have chosen is uniquely yours. You are not here to fulfill someone else’s karmic mission, and listening to anything but the voice in your head will surely result in end-of-life regret. As Steve Jobs said in his Stanford University commencement speech, “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma—which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.”1

Perhaps you’re thinking, “I don’t know what my inner voice is saying,” or, “I don’t know what my mission is.” Well, your mission is to do those things that make you smile, that motivate you to get up in the morning, that excite you on some idle Tuesday. That’s it. That’s all. Nothing more to it. Some of us were meant to be astronauts and some of us were meant to sell clothes. Some of us were meant to travel the world and some of us were meant to drill concrete. The title of your purpose doesn’t matter; what matters is that it makes you happy. A daily sense of purpose trumps all the monetary riches in the world, and this purpose cannot be found in the opinions and beliefs of others—only you know this purpose.

External events don’t define you

The Forever Youngs who walk this world mute the outside world and all of its opinions, ideas, and judgments. Even when surrounded by turmoil and despair, they seem to be unaffected, unharmed, and unburdened. Their inner flame always flickers, regardless of the issues that present themselves. These are individuals who view and handle problems differently than most. For example, most individuals catching a flight get frustrated if their plane is delayed. They moan about how poorly the airline is run and how all their activities and appointments will be delayed. They become angry, nervous, or sad. These feelings have lower vibrations, and this lower-vibration energy lingers with them, sometimes even ruining their entire trip.

Conversely, the Forever Youngs in this situation don’t react immediately with anger or frustration. Instead, they see it as an opportunistic event. They know the plane will arrive when it arrives and not a second too late or too early. For them, the delay might be a chance to catch up on their reading, to mingle with other passengers, or to meditate or take a nap. In other words, they don’t allow events outside their control to control them. And not only do they see the delay as purposeful and opportunistic—they also feel grateful for it. They are happy to be catching a flight in the first place, knowing that a few hundred years ago, getting from Calgary to Vancouver would take months. Higher-vibrating individuals see events through this kind of lens. They see the world in perfect order and harmony and don’t allow anything to create lower-vibrating energies within them, for they know there is no value in being anything other than happy.

Your world can be perfect

Several years ago, I was listening to one of Wayne Dyer’s audio books: How to be a No-Limit Person. Dyer is an author considered by many to be the father of motivation. This tape includes an interview that a young reporter conducted with a man named Nisargadatta Maharaj.

Essentially, the reporter asked him how he could be so full of love when the world around him was so dark. Maharaj paused for a moment and then responded gently, saying that in his world, all was exactly as it should be.

Maharaj wasn’t implying that he didn’t care what went on around him. Rather, he chose not to fill his mind with darkness, or become attached to such turmoil. He understood the power of our thoughts and how they can affect our world. Your reality reflects what you think about all day long; it has nothing to do with what goes on around you. He chose to fill his head with love rather than hate, and so he attracted things that made him feel loved.

We cannot attract more positive experiences into our lives by thinking about all the negative stuff that happens to us or around us. Ignore what the tribe is telling you and instead focus on cultivating your own reality through higher-functioning thoughts.

When you think about what you want, it will find you

A frame of mind that is built around problems rather than solutions will only create more problems. As Albert Einstein said, “We cannot solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them.” We cannot eradicate hate with more hate, but we can eradicate it by responding with love. We cannot become millionaires by constantly telling ourselves, “I can’t afford that” or “I don’t deserve that.” Instead, we must think rich, think high level. We must feel that we deserve all the abundance in the world if we wish to attract prosperity. We need to shift away from the thoughts that create the shortfalls in our lives to higher-vibrating streams of thought. What we contemplate throughout the day will appear around us, as if by magic.

There will always be suffering, hate, and violence in the world if you look for it; there will always be people who are displeased with you if you look for them. What you search for will find you in abundance, whether it be love or hate. Majarah chose to see his world as a place filled with love, peace, and harmony, and this is what materialized for him. So many people choose to see the world through the lens of anger, bitterness, and negativity and are completely baffled when anger, bitterness, and negativity come knocking on their door. It’s nothing but a choice. And in choosing to see the world as a place of love and joy rather than as place of hostility and hate, we not only become healthier human beings, but we also unconsciously spread that higher-level vibration to those around us.

Listen to your world, not the tribe

Again, there is only one person you should be listening to, and that person is you. When you look back on your life, there will be much regret if you followed what the tribe had in mind for you. Think about how many people have cheated themselves out of a better life because they didn’t do what they wanted and instead stayed in a job they despised or an unhappy relationship. Think about how many people wake up every morning and say “Good god, it’s morning” instead of “Good morning, God.” Think about how many people put on a false personality to please those around them. Too many of us are watered-down versions of ourselves, and not enough of us are authentic, genuine, and vibrant.

The Forever Youngs would rather be authentic and criticized for who they are than inauthentic and loved by everyone. Others’ plans for how you should live your life will never go as far as your plans for yourself. In other words, no one other than you has that knowing, that dream, that desire planted inside the fabric of his or her being. Only you know what you want out of life, and only you have what it takes to fully realize this desire. Don’t let society control your divine expression. Every soul on this planet is here to express its individuality and talents through its own offerings and gifts. Remind yourself daily that you are here to live your life on your terms. Be you, be you, be you, and let go of tribal thinking.

How others treat you is their reality

If someone says something to you that is harsh, critical, or hurtful, take it lightly—how people respond to events reflects their own world. Therefore, what they say and how they behave should have no bearing on your perception of yourself. Instead, see it as a glimpse into who they are. Their actions have everything to do with them and very little to do with you.

Wayne Dyer says that “you can’t give what you don’t have.” In his Power of Intention lectures he often asks his audiences: “When you squeeze an orange, what comes out of it?” Not grapefruit or lemon juice but orange juice, of course. Why, you ask? Well, that’s what’s inside. Furthermore, it doesn’t matter who or what is doing the squeezing. The same sweet liquid will come out of the orange, regardless. Dyer explains that we can relate this concept to life. When someone approaches you with negativity, and you respond the same way, you’re doing so because that’s what you hold inside. If you’re filled with low-vibrating thoughts, that is exactly what will come out of you in times of stress.

You can’t accept or give love if you have none for yourself. Those who respond with the low-vibrating emotions when “squeezed” operate in the realm of the Takers. They try to gain their power and strength (in order to feel better about themselves) through dominating, ridiculing, judging, and belittling others. As discussed earlier, the Takers’ primary issue is a lack of self-love. They fill their inner emptiness by breaking others down. Instead of feeling attacked by these individuals, try to remember that they’re responding or acting out according to how they feel inside.

Conversely, the Forever Youngs when “squeezed” release confidence, security, peacefulness, and openness. They see the tribe’s opinions and beliefs as simply noise; it fails to penetrate their perception of themselves. These individuals make no time for judgmental or critical thoughts, which vibrate at a lower frequency and create disease in the body (more on this later). They also simply don’t feel the need to extend judgment, for they understand that we’re all doing the best we can given the stories of our lives. Next time someone approaches you with a judgment, ask yourself, “What’s the subtext here?” In time, you’ll begin to realize that what’s being said is not about you but a reflection of that person’s distressing world, and the “juices” they hold within.

A life spent trying to please the tribe will always elude you. There will always be someone who finds fault it what you`re doing. So, end your tireless search for approval for it will never fill your cup. As you work on leaving the tribe behind, you will pursue the things that resonate with you. You`ll move in the direction of your own passions and your own dreams, for you will begin to see that you have no requirement to do what others expect of you. Nobody knows you better than you know yourself, so why listen to what others have in mind for you? Understanding this allows you to separate yourself from the tribe and the way they think and act. And once separated, you will begin to hear your own voice more clearly and rediscover that greatness within.

Affirmation

I know that in this life, there will always be a critic, no matter what I decide to do or express. I choose to live my life based on my inner reality, and I disregard the beliefs and opinions of others. What other people think of me is a reflection of their reality and where they are in their karmic paths. Life is but a moment in eternity, and I will not concern myself with external beliefs, opinions, and ideas, for this is my unique journey.



I am Forever Young

3

BE PLAYFUL



This is the real secret of life—to be completely engaged with what you are doing in the here and now. And instead of calling it work, realize it is play.”

-Alan Watts

It’s true: the world in which we live is a playful one. A life full of laughter, wonder, joy, and adventure is our birthright. I was told from a young age to never lose my sense of playfulness, for playfulness is key to connecting with our essence. Children can teach us how to remain in this state of curiosity, for their minds are boundless, not confined by limiting beliefs. As children, we entered new worlds simply by using our imagination. Our days consisted of fairy-tale lands and make-believe stories and characters full of magic and mysticism. It’s easy to lose our cheekiness when life hits hard with deadlines, duties, and dramas.

Taxes, bills, mortgages, car payments, loans, and the search for rewarding, progressive careers and relationships—all these things can take over that lighthearted, youthful spirit that resides within us. We strive for money and efficiency; we strive to be responsible. How many times have you heard the words “grow up” or “quit acting like a child”? Within our society exists the misconception that “childish” and “childlike” mean the same thing. But being childish is very different from being childlike. Being childlike means taking time out of your day to play with your partner or friends, daydream, fantasize, role play, sing, dance, laugh, and find joy in seemingly dull moments. To be childish is to be careless, immature, and irrational. One can be childlike and responsible at the same time.

It’s one thing to say we should be more playful but much harder to actually put into practice. However, the Forever Youngs work to maintain that level of playfulness and fun well into their last days. To remain Forever Young we must learn to laugh more, play more, and be more curious in nature. We should strive to carry those childlike attributes throughout our lives. In this chapter, we will learn to implement playfulness into our everyday world—because not only is being playful fun, more importantly, many physical, mental, and emotional benefits come from doing so.

Observe play

Through several studies, researchers have revealed that playfulness and kindness are therapeutic. Even the simple act of observing playfulness in others provokes a strong biological response. For example, watching two individuals playing a game of tag or hide-and-seek instantly triggers a chemical response in the observer’s brain—high levels of serotonin (the neurotransmitter associated with pleasure and happiness) are released into the bloodstream. What’s even more interesting is that the observer’s brain actually secretes twice as much serotonin as those of the individuals involved in the play.2 In other words, observing playfulness in others elicits a stronger biological response than participating in play. So next time you feel down and out, make an effort to enjoy an activity or, better yet, to watch an activity that involves laughter and joy. You will literally create molecules in your brain that allow you to feel happier.

Get outside & play

When we observe the natural world, we can see that play is happening all the time. The trees stretch out to the sun in joy, the stars twinkle and dance in the night sky, and animals chase each other over the grass. Dogs play fetch, cats play hide-and-seek, and dolphins create games to play with each other. In fact, dolphins are considered one of the most playful mammals in the animal kingdom. These skillful swimmers take joy in shooting out of the water and performing acrobatic flips and spins. Countless surfers have spotted dolphins body surfing next to them while they ride the waves.3 There is much we can learn from all of life’s creatures. If they make time for play, why shouldn’t we?

Playfulness keeps us young at heart and full of energy, so we must never lose sight of it. Take time each day to find a moment of laughter and excitement. All too often, we take life so darn seriously. Even death, which so many of us fear, is simply the universe playing hide-and-seek with our physical forms. We all come into the physical plane and then disappear into the divine. Death is a natural part of life that should not be feared. Think of life as just one giant, playful game of peekaboo that spans infinite time and space. Grasping this idea can provide a sense of relief; it can help us lighten up and let go of petty concerns. Make time each day to go outside and play, for in doing so, you will become a happier human being.

Reverse the effects of time

Several years ago, Dr. Ellen Langer, a psychologist at Harvard, published an experiment that demonstrates the importance of maintaining a youthful attitude throughout life.4 In 1979, a group of senior citizens participated in her world-renowned study, which produced head-scratching results that redefined the concept of time. The study participants were taken to a monastery renovated to reflect an atmosphere of the 1950s—the drapes, the TVs, the furniture, the light fixtures, and even the TIME magazines. When they turned the TVs on, participants could only watch programs that aired in the 1950s. Board games, colouring books, Lego sets, and all sorts of toys and devices were also placed purposefully throughout the monastery to reflect this period in time. The environment was designed to induce in participants memories of their adolescent years. The guideline participants were left with? Be as you were in the 1950s. Don’t reminisce, but simply be as you were when you were in your twenties. With that, the researcher shut the monastery’s doors and left the participants to mingle and coexist for two weeks. During this time, they had no contact with the outside world.

Something miraculous happened. What Dr. Langer discovered when the participants came to the lab two weeks later was nothing short of astonishing. Highly refined scans and sophisticated sampling techniques performed on each senior revealed that every single participant had reversed the biological markers of aging—not stopped or paused them, but literally reversed them! Their visual and hearing thresholds had improved, their systolic blood pressure had gone down, their skin had become more elastic with more fat underneath, causing their wrinkles to fade, their bone density had become thicker, and the levels of adrenal steroids (which control sex drive) had increased exponentially in their circulatory systems, thus improving their libidos. Everything Dr. Langer measured exemplified biological characteristics of a more youthful state: characteristics equivalent to that of a twenty-something-year-old. And these results occurred simply as a result of participants’ living in an environment designed to bring about a more youthful and playful state. All Dr. Langer did was create a sensory-rich environment based on an earlier time period and tell participants to be as they were when they were young!

The big lesson here is simply this: our minds create our reality. If we see ourselves as young, confident, and capable, our bodies will respond to reflect this thinking. We need to think young to be young. And this concept applies to every aspect of our lives. If we want something, we need to feel as if we already have it; if we want to win, we must feel as if we have already won; if we want to be rich, we must feel as if we’re already rich. The world will respond to who you think you are. What you think you are, you will eventually become. Walter D. Wintle, a nineteenth-century poet, powerfully expresses this idea in the following poem:

“Thinking”

If you think you are beaten, you are

If you think you dare not, you don’t,

If you like to win, but you think you can’t

It is almost certain you won’t.



If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost

For out of the world we find,

Success begins with a fellow’s will

It’s all in the state of mind.



If you think you are outclassed, you are

You’ve got to think high to rise,

You’ve got to be sure of yourself before

You can ever win a prize.



Life’s battles don’t always go

To the stronger or faster man,

But soon or late the man who wins

Is the man who thinks he can!”

Celebrate each year that passes with grace and appreciation. Change how you think about growing old and begin to create realities that benefit your body, your world, and your soul. Think playful, think curious. And take joy in everything during your brief journey upon this planet, for this will create a happier and healthier you. This will allow you to be Forever Young.

Affirmation

I choose to live this life lightly, for I reside in a universe that is playful and recreational. I know my thoughts create my reality. Thus, I choose thoughts that help me to remain healthy and strong. I know that the cells in my body are a direct reflection of how I perceive the world. Therefore, I see myself as growing younger every day. Each day, my cells are replenished, repaired, and replaced. Each day they are in a healthier and more vital state. I am ageless, timeless, and full of positive thoughts.



I am Forever Young

4

LET GO OF YOUR BODY


Your body is just the place that your spirit calls home for the time being.

As Pierre Teilhard de Chardin said so eloquently, “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” As a society, we are obsessed with the physical body and how to present it. We are infatuated with designer brands, silk thread counts, and how others perceive the outline of our body and colour of our skin. The clothes we wear—the way pieces of cloth fall upon our shoulders—often seem to be of the utmost importance. We are so fixated on how the world perceives us that we completely forget the life force that drives and animates our very existence: our soul. We are far greater than just a set of bones surrounded by fat, muscle, and skin. In truth, we are fields of energy infusing these vessels we call our bodies for a fraction of time in eternity. To be Forever Young, see yourself as something far grander than your body, which is limited and confined to its environment. The physical body lasts for only so long before it deteriorates into dust and is recycled in the soil. It is nothing more than the medium in which your spirit can express itself at this time.

A great teacher of mine once said that our bodies account for 1 percent of our form; the other 99 percent of who we are is invisible, untouchable, and impervious to the senses. Think about it: the body you reside in for years accounts for only 1 percent of your being! Truly remarkable. Don’t you think we should be more concerned with the other 99 percent of our selves? The Forever Youngs understand the importance of nourishing and caring for their physical bodies but seek to understand and nourish the intangible, mystical side of their forms as well. The aim of this chapter is to allow you to live your life from that ‘99 percent’ realm—the world of thought. Who we are, stems from the quality of our thinking. And if we can learn to create healthier and happier thoughts from within, our bodies and life will follow suit.

Time is limited

To be Forever Young, we must remember that life is short. One minute you’re in your twenties and the next, you’re in your sixties reminiscing about how enjoyable high school and university was. I’d bet my bottom dollar that for many of you, it feels like just yesterday you were roaming the halls, shooting spitballs at teachers, and playing basketball on your high school’s courts. But time waits for no one, and we all share that common destination in the end. We all grow old. That perfectly sculpted body will wear out and wear thin until it powers off.

Let’s reflect on the idea of mortality for a moment—great wisdom is gained in doing so. The thought of death scares most of us, and this fear makes us turn a blind eye to the idea that someday, we will leave this world behind. So instead of thinking about this, we get caught up in life’s daily routines. Often it’s not until we are terminally sick or on our deathbeds that we begin to really understand what’s important to us. The simple act of thinking of our own death changes the way we live almost instantly. Consider this: on average, about two hundred thousand people die each day—that’s roughly 70 million people per year. But don’t let this statistic make you feel despair. Instead, let it free you from the fear of death. Once we appreciate that we won’t live forever, we can begin to make time for the things that matter to us, and to pursue what we desire. We have only so many breaths, so why wouldn’t we spend our days—spend our lives—following our excitement?

The Floaters often have a hard time understanding that our time on earth is limited. They tend to go through life without a sense of purpose or direction, as if they have all the time in the world to do what they want, when they want. The Floaters do their essence a great disservice. They are what I like to call the sleepwalkers: they are here physically but have checked out mentally, emotionally, and spirituality. The 99 percent of their existence is dormant, stifled, and unfulfilled. They have not yet nourished their souls; their meaning has yet to be discovered.

Remember: we have only so many heartbeats and hours to find that purpose within us. With that, don’t let fear keep you from doing the things you want to do. Why not ask that special person out on that date? Why not push yourself to become better and try that thing that’s scary? Why not do that thing you’ve been putting off for so long now? We all end up in a wooden box six feet underground anyway. Take risks, explore the unknown, follow your intuition. Live, don’t float. It’s far better to end your life battered and bruised with purpose than to arrive safely and unscathed but without fulfillment. Our names will be forgotten, our physical bodies will perish, and the world will continue to spin without us.

To be Forever Young, find that which fills your soul. Maybe for you that means starting a company, adopting a child, or working at the fish market. Anything that gives you bliss, excitement, and a sense of purpose in your everyday life will allow you to reconnect with your essence.

Who you are, not what you have

So many people define their self-worth by their careers, their physiques and the material possessions they accumulate over a lifetime. When your happiness is dependent on the external world, the external world is in control, not you. There is more to life and more to your purpose than just collecting material goods, having that perfectly sculpted face, and being able to define yourself as a banker, painter, dancer, or writer. It is far more valuable to collect memories and friendships, for these things are timeless, boundless, and infinite. Possessions, your body, and careers are not.

Look around and you’ll see numerous individuals justifying their existence in the following ways: “I am an MVP”; “I am a welder”; “I am an analyst”; “I am a lifeguard”; “I am an accountant”; “I am a banker.” The labels we place on ourselves are superficial and fleeting. We won’t always be the MVP, the welder, the analyst, or the lifeguard. We won’t always live on the corner lot of Sunset Boulevard and we won’t always have money. Everything we “have” in this lifetime is part of a rental agreement we made with the universe. We are temporarily acting as the banker, the welder, or the analyst, until the next person in line comes along and takes the position. I can assure you that after your time on this planet has expired, you will not be remembered for where you lived or what car you drove—you will be remembered for how you made others feel, which is what’s everlasting in this world.

If we associate who we are with what we have, then what happens if we lose these things? What do we become? Well, if our self-worth is tied to a possession and that possession disappears, we essentially become worthless and unenviable. Sadly, self-worth is so often tied to possessions in this way, and thus insecurity and self-doubt are big issues for many people. If you rely on the external to validate your existence, your cup will never be full. You will always want more. So instead, remind yourself on a regular basis that you are valuable, sacred, and precious simply because you exist. Quit being so hard on yourself and comparing yourself to others, for we are all on unique journeys and we all have unique karmic missions.

It’s time that you perceived and treated yourself with compassion and love. Think of it this way: if you found something of incredible value, you would work hard to keep it in pristine condition, right? Well, you are of incredible value. Nourish your body with healthy foods, healthy thoughts, and healthy practices. You are incredibly, uniquely, fantastically special and valuable because you’re a piece of the divine. All the riches in the world couldn’t buy your energy, your character, and your soul. Begin to see yourself as valuable and rich, not because of what you have, but because of who you are as a person, and you will be Forever Young.

Connecting with yourself through nature

On a molecular level, we are all made up of the same stuff. 5 There are only so many elements that form the visible universe. Carbon, hydrogen, oxygen, and nitrogen (CHON) are the building blocks of life. Humans appear different from trees, plants from animals, rocks from water, etc. because the same elements are arranged in slightly different ways. Everything and everyone comes from the same rudimentary physical elements on the periodic table. Even the stars you see twinkling in the night sky, so great and grand, the nebulas and galaxies billions of light years away, consist of the same ingredients that make up our skin, bones, tissue, teeth, and hair. We are CHON and they are CHON. Carl Sagan once said, “Our planet, our society, and we ourselves are built of star stuff.” He meant this quite literally. Consider this the next time you gaze upon the stars. When we see the external world and all its beauty, what we are really seeing is a reflection of ourselves. A beautiful thought indeed. We must rekindle our connection with nature, for we are not separate from this environment—we have been born from it. We are much grander than the bodies in which we live. We are intrinsically connected to the environment around us.

Connecting with nature is connecting with our essence. Nature keeps us grounded and in the present moment. It reminds us of our true origin, the one uninterrupted by life’s nuisances. It keeps us Forever Young. Nature is not filled with the worries of tomorrow. Nature is silent, it is still, it just is. When we are in nature we become silent, we become still, we can just be. Spend time with this calming energy unburdened by troubles, deadlines, and meetings. It is a living and breathing being, just like you. Stroll in the park alone or with family or friends. Run your hands through the grass or the sand. Stop and smell the flowers. Close your eyes and tune in to your sense of hearing—listen to birds, leaves in the wind, or other sounds you’d otherwise miss. Watch the sunset or focus on a tiny part of nature, a leaf or single blade of grass. Take breaks from whatever you’re doing and go outside. You’ll likely return refreshed and refocused.

What’s next?

Whether you believe in reincarnation or not, there is one thing we can all agree on—at some point, our bodies will leave this world behind. They will decompose into the earth. Again, it’s important to acknowledge this truth; it will help you to appreciate the time you are given here and to use it purposefully, strategically, and graciously. With that, let’s take a closer look at the physical process of death.

Minutes after the body’s death, cells and tissues, lacking necessary oxygen, begin to die off. Bacteria within the body breaks the cells down into smaller and smaller particles. The body takes on a ghastly appearance, and the decomposing tissues emit gases such as methane and hydrogen fluoride. Bacteria will feed on the decaying flesh until what was once a body becomes microscopic particles enriching the soil with nutrients necessary for the growth of all life. What was once a living human is recycled in the earth to become indistinguishable from the surrounding soil. This imagery is graphic, but I use it to help you disconnect from your physical body.

Now that your body has “perished,” ask yourself these very important questions:


Where is my essence now?

Where is “me”?

What’s next?

Where do I go now?

Who am I now?

Where is my value?


These questions have mystified humans for centuries. Death and the afterlife have always baffled us. Along with these questions, consider the poem “Reincarnation,” written by Wallace McRae. 6 He makes the sobering point that when it’s all said and done, you’re essentially a pile of animal dung. From a physical perspective there is much truth to this, for animal dung has the same cellular components as our bodies. But from a spiritual perspective, the reality is vastly different. Your essence, your soul, your vibes, your chi—whatever you want to call it—has moved on. It is certainly not residing in that dung. Yes, our bodies perish and become one with the earth upon death. However, our essence continues. It continues to take on other forms. We weep and despair when loved ones pass away, but we must remember that only their physical form has died; their energy, their spirit, their essence can never perish: it is everlasting. What organizes your very life, your very being, your very existence, is beyond the physical. It is infinite. Many people see mediums and psychics in order to connect with the energy of those who have passed over, for this energy is still very much present. The body may have dissolved into the earth, but the soul remains. Consider Mary Elizabeth Frye’s poem “Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep,” 7 which sums up this idea beautifully.

To be Forever Young, acknowledge that what constitutes your existence is not the body but the energy that gives rise to your body.

You are your energy

Everything in the universe is made up of energy, and this energy is measured in vibrations. Positive thoughts create positive vibrations, and positive vibrations gyrate quickly. Conversely, negative thoughts create negative vibrations, and negative vibrations gyrate slowly. If you were to look at an atom under a powerful microscope, you would see mostly empty space surrounded by vibrating electrons, protons, and neutrons. Quantum physics is beginning to reveal that atoms are not material in nature but simply vibrations emitting electrical impulses. These impulses can be observed and quantified with sophisticated particle-detection technology. And astonishingly, these impulses can manipulate the speed of neighbouring atoms’ vibrations. So, if an atom is emitting weak, slow impulses, nearby atoms will begin to do the same. So what, you ask? Well, understanding this concept is imperative to reaching higher levels of consciousness. The human body is made up of atoms. Thus, the vibrations we give off can have a profound impact not only on us, but also on those around us. Whether we are aware of it or not, we pick up on these impulses all the time.

Have you ever met with someone only to feel immediately anxious or sick? Have you ever felt a sense of sadness or intrusion before someone has uttered even a single word? This is your energetic field interacting with another’s, and you are registering the level of consciousness at which that person is operating. You are picking up on their bad vibes, the thoughts they are carrying with them. And have you ever met with someone and instantly felt a sense of excitement, joy, and love? This person is likely a Forever Young radiating high-frequency energy and thus raising your own energy level. Trust your instincts when you meet with people or go to places; everything emits a frequency. What you surround yourself with affects your field all the time, so it’s very important to surround yourself with people and places that empower you.

If you find yourself carrying around low-vibrating energy, consider something a dear mentor once told me— “If you cannot enjoy your life in some way, shape, or form, you are not only a burden to yourself but also a burden to those around you.” No amount of negative thinking will ever brighten this world; it will only darken it. Enjoy your life, for this enjoyment will positively affect the world around you. No words or actions are needed. Simply shift your internal dialogue from disempowering to empowering and see how the world responds to your conscious mind’s thinking.

Your body responds to thoughts

When Western methods of treatment are combined with Eastern ones, disease and illness in the body can often be cured. Western medicine tends to focus on symptoms, while Eastern medicine aims to understand where the disease originated. If we want long-term healing to take place in our bodies, we must first approach illness from an Eastern perspective. Eastern philosophies tend to promote the idea that all ailments can be traced back to a single negative thought—a thought that originated from you and no one else. Therefore, if we are willing to put in the mental effort to discover what sort of internal dialogue created the ailment in the first place, we can begin our journey to perfect health. In her powerful book You Can Heal Your Life, Louise Hay discusses the mind-body connection in detail. Her premise is that every thought we hold expresses itself as a specific symptom in the body. For example:


Unsettled stomach – fear of the unknown

Skin sores – unexpressed and unresolved anger

Vision issues – not liking what you see in your life

Anxiety – not trusting that everything in life shows up exactly on time; feeling as if there is not enough time in the day 8


Because every thought affects the body, we need to be mindful of what we’re allowing to circulate in our minds. Thoughts of love produce atoms that vibrate in harmony with one another; thoughts of hate produce the opposite. Therefore, if we can manifest illness through our thoughts, we can also manifest healing and health. To address the physical issues that arise in my body, I look at the symptom list Hay presents in You Can Heal Your Life and counter the symptom with my own affirmations:


Unsettled stomach – “I choose to have a mind that is open to new situations and circumstances.”

Skin sores – “It’s okay to be angry; I can express my anger in joyous and positive ways.”

Vision issues – “I know that I am the creator of my life, and I choose to attract that which I desire.”

Anxiety – “I am on an infinite journey through life. I am at ease, and I trust that everything and everyone is revealed to me exactly on time and on purpose. All is as it should be.”


While these affirmations are quite specific, you don’t need an extensive list of targeted affirmations to treat each misalignment within your body. You just need to shift your internal dialogue to that of a higher vibration. Change thoughts of victimization, hate, blame, regret, anger, and hostility to thoughts of acceptance, nonjudgment, respect, admiration, excitement, and hope. It’s that simple. The Forever Youngs not only care for their bodies through healthy eating and exercise—they also work at taking caring of their minds. They work to ensure that constructive, empowering thoughts are filling their consciousness. As Lao Tzu said, “If you correct your mind, the rest of your life will fall into place.” Learn to love yourself and feed your mind with nourishing thoughts; your world will respond accordingly.


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